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Parenting/Mayores - This is how we are going to raise our children as a better person by being responsible parents. 

It takes too long to give our attention, patience, strength, love and expenses for the better growth of the children.

It’s a heavy work and very hard to become parents, but there’s a need for us parents to have trust with our own self and accept our responsibilities.  Reverence for the Lord gives confidence and security to a man and his family.

In rearing our children to become a better person, asks the Lord to bless your plans and you will be successful in carrying them out.  You may make your plans but God will direct your actions.

We have to built stronger relationship with our children by upbringing them to become a good citizen, with strong faith to God our Creator, environmentally concern, respectful and concern for the rights of others.  Children are fortunate if they have a father who is honest and does what is right. Even children show what they are by what they do; you can tell if they are honest and good. 

We have to spend part of our time to communicate with them to know their needs both financially, emotionally, spiritually and live a healthier lifestyle.   Correction and discipline are good for children.  If they have their own way, they will make their parents ashamed of them.  Discipline your children and you can always be proud of them.  They will never give you reason to be ashamed.

There is nothing but sadness and sorrow for parents whose children do foolish things.  Discipline your children while they are young enough to learn.

If you don’t, you are helping them destroy themselves. If you love them you will correct them.  Children just naturally do silly, careless things but good kind words will teach them how to behave and bring them to a better future life, but not cruel words that crush your spirit and destroys your children psychological and could  cause emotional disturbances.   Remember that there are many laws that protected the Rights of the Children (RA 7610, RA 9262, and RA 9344).

Let’s try to avoid our children to become victims of physical, psychological, sexual, emotional maltreatment and neglect. Let’s make our children wise to pay attention to advices from parents and wise to accept correction. Teach children how they should live, and they will remember it all their life.  A righteous person’s parents have good reason to be happy.  You can take pride in a wise child.

But if and when a child inform us that he/she is a victim of abuse, don’t ask so many details, ask right away as to what kind of abuse, who is the subject, and what she feels.  Hear his/her complaint and be calm.  Do not blame the child.  Tell the child that it is not his/her fault.  Report the case to the office of the barangay, police station or to the social worker within your barangay. 

*Rights of a Child
The Convention on the Rights of the Child (CRC) states that a child is a person under 18 years old, unless national laws recognize the age of majority earlier.  CRC is an international agreement ratified in 1990 by most member countries of the United Nations.  The CRC sets minimum standards for parents, NGOs, civil society and governments must commit to ensure that children realize their rights.  Parents are primarily responsible in fulfilling the rights of the child for children’s optimum growth and development.  Parents should help their children understand and exercise their rights.

*The rights of the child can be summarized as follows:
The right to be born, to have a name and nationality.
The right to have a family to take care of him or her.
To have a good education.
To develop his or her full potential.
To have enough food, shelter.  To have a healthy and active body.
To learn good manners and good conduct.
To be given the opportunity to play and have leisure.
To be given protection against abuse, danger and violence.
To live in a peaceful community.
To be defended and assisted by the government.
To be able to express his or her views.

*The rights of the child can be clustered into four broad categories:
Survival - The rights of the child for him or her to live.  These include food, health, shelter and clothing.

Development - The rights of the child for him or her to attain his full potential.  These include education, rest and recreation, spiritual activity, love and care.

Protection - The rights of the child for him to be supported and protected.  These include protection from mental, physical or sexual abuse, neglect and exploitation.

Participation - The rights of the child which will enable him to express his feelings and thoughts.  These include his or her right to speak his or her own opinion; to have access to good and important information; to be with his or her own peers; and his or her right to a name and nationality which he or she needs to be identified as a member of a family, community or a society.

*Republic Act No. 9262
Republic Act No. 9262 – An act defining violence against women and their children, providing for protective measures for victims, prescribing penalties there for and for other purposes. 

As used in this Act “Violence Against Women and their Children” refers to any act or a series of acts committed by any person against a woman who is his wife, former wife, or against a woman with whom the person has or had a sexual or dating relationship, or with whom he has a common child, or against her child whether legitimate or illegitimate, within or without the family abode, which result in or is likely to result in physical, sexual, psychological harm or suffering, or economic abuse including threats of such acts, battery, assault, coercion, harassment or arbitrary deprivation of liberty. 

“Physical Violence” refers to acts that include bodily or physical harm.
“Sexual Violence” refers to an act which is sexual in nature, committed against a woman or her child.
“Psychological Violence” refers to acts or omissions causing or likely to cause mental or emotional suffering of the victim.
“Economic Abuse” refers to acts that make or attempt to make a woman financially dependent such as withdrawal of financial support.
“Battery” refers to an act of inflicting physical harm upon the woman or her child resulting to physical and psychological or emotional distress.
Crimes against children are punishable under several laws including the Revised Penal Code of 1935 and the Rape Law of 1997.  Although the Philippine Congress passed RA 7610 “The Anti-Child Abuse Law” in 1991, there has been no definite ruling whether this Act supersedes all previous laws.

As defined “Children” refers to persons below eighteen (18) years of age or those over but are unable to fully take care of themselves or protect themselves from abuse, neglect, cruelty, exploitation or discrimination because of a physical mental disability or condition.
Child Abuse is the maltreatment, whether habitual or not, of a child.  It is the imposition of physical or psychological injury, cruelty, neglect, sexual abuse or exploitation of a child.  Lascivious conduct is likewise punishable under the Anti-Rape Law as “Sexual Assault” such as Prostitution and Child Exploitation.

The children in especially difficult circumstances requiring special protection are:  Refugee Children, Children in Conflict with the Law, Street Children, Working children, Indigenous Children and Disabled Children. 

Any person who learns of facts or circumstances that give rise to the belief that a child has suffered abuse may report it to the Police, DSWD, NBI, CHR and Barangay.

The Philippine National Police’s (PNP’s) role is primarily to investigate allegations of a child abuse or of other criminal conduct in which children are involved in any capacity.  This includes emergency protection of the victim, protection of the child from additional trauma, determination of a violation of the law, obtaining evidence necessary for prosecution and apprehension of the suspect, as needed.  The Police Law Enforcer also has the role of working within a multidisciplinary framework to prevent new victims through advocacy and education of the community.

*Republic Act 7610
RA 7610 – An act providing for stronger deterrence and special protection against child abuse, exploitation and discrimination, providing penalties for its violation and for other purposes.  This act shall be known as the “Special Protection of Children against Child Abuse, Exploitation and Discrimination Act”.
“Children” refers to persons below eighteen (18) years of age or those over but are unable to fully take care of themselves from abuse, neglect, cruelty, exploitation or discrimination because of a physical or mental disability of condition.

“Child Abuse” refers to the infliction of physical or psychological injury, cruelty, neglect, sexual abuse or exploitation of a child.
“Cruelty” refers to any act by word or deed which degrade the worth and dignity of a child as human being.

“Physical Injury” includes lacerations, fractured bones, burns, internal injuries, severe injury or serious bodily harm suffered by a child.
“Psychological Injury” means harm to a child’s psychological or intellectual functioning which may be exhibited by severe anxiety, depression, withdrawal or outward aggressive behavior.

“Neglect” means failure to provide, for reasons other than poverty, adequate food, clothing, shelter, basic education or medical care so as to seriously endanger the physical, mental, social and emotional growth and development of the child.

“Sexual Abuse” includes the employment, use, persuasion, inducement, coercion of a child to engage in sexual intercourse or lascivious conduct or the molestation, prostitution or incest with children. 

“Exploitation” means the hiring, employment, persuasion, inducement, or coercion of a child to perform in obscene exhibitions and indecent shows, whether live or in video or film, or to pose or act as a model in obscene publications or pornographic materials, or to sell or distribute said material. 
A person who learns of facts or circumstances that give rise to the belief that a child has suffered abuse may report either orally or in writing to the police or other law enforcement agency, DSWD and BCPC.

*Republic Act 9344
RA 9344 - An act establishing a comprehensive Juvenile Justice and Welfare System, creating the Juvenile Justice Welfare Council under the Department of Justice, appropriating funds there for and for other purposes. 

A “Child” refers to a person under the age of eighteen (18) years.  A child fifteen (15) years of age or under at the time of the commission of the offense shall be exempt from criminal liability.  However, the child shall be subjected to an intervention program pursuant to Section 20 of this Act. 
A “Child above fifteen (15) years but below eighteen (18) years of age shall likewise be exempt from criminal liability and be subjected to an intervention program, unless he/she acted with discernment, in which case, such child shall be subjected to the appropriate proceedings in accordance with this Act. 

The exemption from criminal liability herein established does not include exemption from civil liability, which shall be enforced in accordance with existing laws.

The “Family” shall be responsible for the primary nurturing and rearing of children which is critical in delinquency prevention.  As far as practicable and in accordance with the procedures of this Act, a child in conflict with the law shall be maintained in his/her family. 

Children in conflict with the law shall undergo diversion programs without undergoing court proceedings subject to the conditions herein provided.

Where the imposable penalty for the crime committed is not more than six (6) years imprisonment, the law enforcement officer or Punong Barangay with the assistance of the Local Social Welfare and Development officer or other members of the LCPC shall conduct mediation, family conferencing and conciliation and, where appropriate, adopt indigenous modes of conflict resolution in accordance with the best interest of the child with a view to accomplishing the objectives or restorative justice and the formulation of a diversion program.  The child and his/her family shall be present in these activities. 

In victimless crimes where the imposable penalty is not more than six (6) years imprisonment, the local Social Welfare and Development officer shall meet with the child and his/her parents or guardians for the development of the appropriate diversion and rehabilitation program in coordination with the BCPC.

Where the imposable penalty for the crime committed exceeds six (6) years imprisonment, diversion measures may be resorted to only by the court.


By  SPO4 Rosabel Araneta Nolasco,
Chief PCR/WCPD, ZCPS4




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